Is there an app to share fantasies with your partner?
Yes. Some apps let each of you mark your fantasies in private and reveal only the ones you share. How they work, which to choose and how to talk about the result.
Updated October 24, 2026
Why sharing a fantasy feels risky
Telling a fantasy out loud means risking a “no”, or a look. That is why so many stay unsaid, even when the other person would have said yes. An app that reveals only the overlap removes that risk: if your partner does not share a fantasy, it simply never appears.
The options
Intimacyour appWebsite
- Best for
- Couples who want to know what they would both like to try in bed, then get date-night plans, guides and positions to do it.
- Price
- Free to start; Premium $6.99 a month, $39.99 a year or $79.99 once, one Premium for both of you
- Where
- Browser, installs as an app from the website on Android and iPhone; five languages
- Strong point
- 235 private questions with five levels of desire; only what you both want shows up and a sent answer never reopens.
- Weak point
- New in October 2026: no app-store ratings yet and no custom questions.
SpicerWebsite
- Best for
- Couples who want many yes/maybe/no idea packs and everyday challenges.
- Price
- Spicer Plus $6.99 or $59.99 (periods not named on the store), lifetime $109.99; packs $1.99–$5.99
- Where
- iPhone and Android, with linked accounts on both phones
- Strong point
- Only topics you both marked yes or maybe become matches; 24-hour challenges, wishlist, custom questions and chat.
- Weak point
- Two installs and two linked accounts; a double “maybe” already counts as a match; advanced packs cost extra.
BeMoreKinkyWebsite
- Best for
- Couples into kink who want scene planning, habits and workshops.
- Price
- $8.99 a month or $34.99 a year
- Where
- iPhone and Android; English
- Strong point
- Thousands of ideas, quizzes you compare and guided content.
- Weak point
- Built around BDSM: more than most couples need to start talking.
Prices from the US App Store on October 22, 2026 (Intimacy from its website).
After the match: how to talk about it
- Pick one shared fantasy, not all of them.
- Talk about it out of bed first: what draws each of you to it, what would make it feel safe.
- Agree on limits and a safe word before trying anything.
- Keep it a curiosity, not a promise. Anyone can change their mind at any moment.
- Talk afterwards about how it felt.
Our guide to the most common sexual fantasies for couples goes through the usual ones, from role play to being watched, with the questions Intimacy asks about each.
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Frequently asked questions
Is there an app to share fantasies with your partner?
Yes. In apps like Intimacy, Spicer and Secret Desires, each of you marks your fantasies in private and only the ones you both share are revealed, so you never have to confess a fantasy your partner does not want.
Does my partner see the fantasies I marked that they did not?
No. In Intimacy only the fantasies you both marked appear, with how much each of you wants them. Anything only one of you marked stays hidden.
Is it safe to put fantasies into an app?
Check what the app stores and who can see it. Intimacy never shows answers one by one to the partner, never sells them or sends them to advertisers, and lets you delete everything at any time.
Read next
- The most common sexual fantasies for couplesDominance, tying up and blindfolds, spanking and biting, role play, being watched, threesomes: the fantasies couples share most, and how to bring yours up without scaring your partner.
- Spicy questions for couples45 intimate questions, from mild to bold: foreplay, oral, positions, orgasms, fantasies and more. And how to answer them without the awkwardness.