Intimacy

Is there an app to find out what your partner wants in bed?

Yes: mutual-reveal apps let each of you answer in private and show only what you both want. How they work, which ones exist in 2026 and what each costs.

Updated October 24, 2026

Two wooden mannequins sitting back to back on a bed, each answering on their own phone

How these apps work

  1. Each of you answers alone, on your own phone or taking turns on one phone. Neither of you sees the other’s answers.
  2. The app compares the answers and shows only the overlap: things you both said yes to (and, in some apps, how much each of you wants them).
  3. Whatever only one of you wanted stays hidden. That is the whole point: asking stops being a risk.

Research explains why this helps. The main reason people keep quiet about what they want is fear of hurting their partner or hearing “no”, and in one large US survey only about half of the people had ever told their partner their favourite fantasy. More on that in our yes, no, maybe list.

Which app to pick

Intimacyour appWebsite

Best for
Couples who want to know what they would both like to try in bed, then get date-night plans, guides and positions to do it.
Price
Free to start; Premium $6.99 a month, $39.99 a year or $79.99 once, one Premium for both of you
Where
Browser, installs as an app from the website on Android and iPhone; five languages
Strong point
235 private questions with five levels of desire; only what you both want shows up and a sent answer never reopens.
Weak point
New in October 2026: no app-store ratings yet and no custom questions.

SpicerWebsite

Best for
Couples who want many yes/maybe/no idea packs and everyday challenges.
Price
Spicer Plus $6.99 or $59.99 (periods not named on the store), lifetime $109.99; packs $1.99–$5.99
Where
iPhone and Android, with linked accounts on both phones
Strong point
Only topics you both marked yes or maybe become matches; 24-hour challenges, wishlist, custom questions and chat.
Weak point
Two installs and two linked accounts; a double “maybe” already counts as a match; advanced packs cost extra.

Secret Desires (Couple Game)Website

Best for
Couples who want a quick card game for tonight.
Price
$4.99 a week, $24.99 a year or $24.99 lifetime
Where
iPhone; both of you on the same phone
Strong point
Each of you swipes in secret and only the cards you both wanted are revealed; lifetime costs the same as a year.
Weak point
Only yes or no, no way to say how much; iPhone only.

Prices from the US App Store on October 22, 2026 (Intimacy from its website). For a wider view, including relationship apps like Paired and Lasting, see the best apps for couples in 2026.

What to check before you start

  • What your partner sees: only the matches, or every answer? Some apps let you choose; some show everything by design.
  • Whether answers can be changed after the result. If they can, one partner can probe the other’s answers.
  • Where it runs and who pays: two installs and two accounts, or a browser link; one subscription for both or one each.
  • What happens after the result: a list of matches, or ideas you can actually use tonight.

Sources

Frequently asked questions

Is there an app to find out what your partner wants in bed?

Yes. Mutual-reveal apps let each of you answer questions about sex in private and then show only what you both want, so nobody hears a “no”. Intimacy does this in the browser with 235 questions and five levels of desire; Spicer and Secret Desires do it in the app stores.

Will my partner see what I said no to?

Not in a mutual-reveal app. In Intimacy, only the interests you both marked appear, with how much each of you wants them; a “no”, a “never” or a skipped question never shows.

Can we do it on one phone?

Yes. Intimacy asks whose turn it is before each chapter and hides the other person’s answers, so you can pass one phone back and forth. Secret Desires also works on one phone; Spicer needs two.

Is it free?

Intimacy is free to start: seven of its 13 chapters have a free result. Spicer and Secret Desires also have free parts and charge for the rest.

Read next